I don't even know where to start!

Regarding Lavender...I'm updating the site, reaching out to existing members, making some overall little upgrades and having fun with it again. That's the thing about this website, I have to be feeling artsy and friendly to work on it.

Read on if you want to hear about my personal relationship successes...

I can't believe it's 2026! My man and I have been together a year and a half now. Some of you already know our story as he and I were dating and doing long distance for quite a while while we still had a chat community going. Part of the reason I shut that down and didn't focus much on the site was to give my energy to our relationship. It's been so much fun, I got so lucky and we have worked really hard for this together.

We had an 800 mile distance between us. So many road trips and flights! I'd have to really think about how many times I flew and drove here, it was a lot. Every few weeks. It was quite expensive. Now, we get to live together! I'm sitting in our office looking at our huge yard and I am just the happiest girl. I found my best friend. He makes me laugh everyday, he's so funny. We have made his house into our home and it's beautiful. We did a huge vacation together with a big road trip all over the country. We have 5 dogs together. He is my dream guy, he's super freakin hot and has the patience of a saint. I could go on and on about him endlessly.

Our mutual interest in ANR is what brought us together. The first couple weeks of us talking he actually didn't bring it up at all, we just got to know each other. When it did come up, there was a lot to be discussed. Fortunately we had similar ideas and desires.

I had a huge list of what I wanted in a partner. Very specific, to the point that I have been told it is unreasonable. Lol. Everything from being selective about where he lives to he can't be a picky eater. But guess what though? Here we are, my man is absolutely perfect and I adore him. He's not a picky eater at all, and that makes it so much fun to cook for him. I know whatever it is he is probably going to really like it. Easy to please.

Much to my surprise, this past year he got me on the motorcycle with him. It is a blast. We have such a good time cruising and checking out new places or going to favorite places.

I am so looking forward to spring, we really enjoy working on the yard together. Last year I got to practice a bit to see what grows well and this year I have plans for lots of tomatoes, peppers, herbs and roses!

As far as our ANR Journey, it's been up and down. We share an incredible love life that is passionate and sweet. it's funny, in the very beginning when we were visiting each other, once he said, "this can't be sustainable" regarding the frequency of our loving. True, six times a day was indeed not sustainable long term. A year and a half later we are still getting hot and heavy twice a day many days. Having a partner that you think is so sexy when naked, that's where it's at.

My body and my health are more sensitive than they should be due to nerve injuries. That has made ANR extra challenging for us as it makes it uncomfortable to be consistent. We love the closeness and include it in ways that work for us. That's one thing that I find really beautiful about the ANR Journey for people, there are so many ways that people think it should be for them and their relationships. Yet it turns out that you have to be adaptable.

It's really a blessing or lucky or whathaveyou to be able to have a partner that you are truly comfortable and open with. To be able to share everything, find comfort in each other, need to be in each others arms, it's so special and beautiful. So I'll work on Lavender again in hopes that through this site more people are able to find that kind of connection and eventual love.