ANR Relationships

Who would have ever thought that online dating would become so prevalent?

It's so wild to think about. Every adult is online to some extent, some more than others. We order everything online these days, from car parts to hair ties to groceries. Why not find a partner online as well? Instant access at your fingertips to countless other adults looking for the same things as you. You probably have a more refined taste for the finer things in life, since you are reading this on Lavender...

Great news! There are others who have the same interests, desires, perhaps even lifestyle choices. You can find a partner who you match well with. It takes work! It really does take a whole lot of work. Reaching out to people, learning about them, communicating, eventually traveling and dates will help you get what you want in life regarding a relationship and a partnership.

Personally I think that it is important to figure out what you want before you go searching for it. I've talked a lot about my feelings on relationships and dating as well as some of my experiences in the past and my opinions can be a little controversial I guess because I very much believe that you can and should not settle, you should have a partner that meets most if not of all of your desires and they should be able to be someone you can share everything with. Especially with intimacy.. You can have a partner who you are super compatible and happy with.

My favorite thing to talk about is my relationship. I feel protective about it but I also feel like so much of it is just truly wonderful and worth sharing, hopefully other people will also feel inspired to have a loving, kind, fun, kinky relationship and to be that kind of partner as well.

I just called my man at work to hear his voice. He is so hot, that made my whole day. When I look around, this has become my whole life, the home we share, our dogs, creating memories together. All the little daily life things. We have been painting his office and hope to finish it this weekend. It's looking so good, I might share pics of it in the Discord group. It's a beautiful and sunny day and I want to work on the yard so bad, we are going to have so many plants this spring!

Yes, we have decided to bring back the discord. Now listen, I actually do not like managing the discord. I don't generally feel friendly enough to keep up with conversations long term and I don't want to have to correct or moderate people, so hopefully everyone just behaves and it goes smoothly.

The goal of Lavender, the site, any extensions of it such as chat groups, the goal is for people to be able to connect with others. In a polite, respectful manner. To be able to get to know each other and then hopefully some relationships form that are special and meaningful.

Obviously there is a theme here with this site and what brings people to it, and that is an important topic to discuss, especially the basics like do you have similar and compatible desires? It's not everything though and it's necessary to remember that you are seeking a partnership (for however long, for me it was a forever relationship) and that will include things like marriage, possibly children, in laws, living together, pets, work stuff, vacations, daily habits, budgets and money, legal stuff, home buying...like do you want to wake up to this person snoring everyday? Are they fun to be around, do you feel good together? Are you financially compatible? This is why you have to know what you want and need and what you will contribute as a partner as well.

I lived on my own for 6 years before my man and I got together. I knew that I wanted to move and I had a few places in mind that I was interested in and some I absolutely was not wanting to move to or even visit. I was in and out of the ANR Communities online for many years and had some experiences that were both good and bad, mostly good, fortunately. I got to travel to meet people, I realized that it would take a lot of effort on my part and on the part of my potential partner if we were going to make things work for the long term. My schedule was and still is very flexible and I wasn't tied to my location where I lived. I knew that I wanted a partner who was single, had no kids, lived alone and owned his home and had a good job. Those are non negotiables to me, because I felt like if I was going to consider relocating, he had to have stability as well as friends and family in the area. Very picky, very smart. I traveled back and forth for about a year, from here back to my home 800 miles away, at first it was a weekend here, then a week, then 10 days, then it's like ok, we don't need 2 houses anymore. He came down to move me! That was really special for us. I planned to do it myself mostly, but he took time off work and flew down, moved my whole entire 3 bedroom house in a weekend. House, my 3 dogs and everything along with it. He brought me a ring too. I got to take him to one of my favorite burger places and show him around town a little bit. He sure did move us up here. I love that so much, he is such a wonderful man. And here, he has allowed and helped me make his house into our home. We spent the past year redoing so much of the house stuff and then adding my stuff to it. We got a lot of new furniture, much of it from marketplace and 2nd hand. Beautiful stuff. We have a rule that if we don't absolutely loveeeeee it, we can't buy it. Speaking of painting his office, one of the first things that we got together for the house is this huge desk. It was from a lawyers office and it was free because nobody wanted to move it. It lived in the garage for a little bit until he took it apart to move it into this room. It is so big, it couldn't fit in this room without coming apart, the desk is 6 feet long. It's so heavy, it's solid wood and beautiful. We are painting the office a navy-ish blue, brown ceiling and the trim will match the walls but be a different shine level, we already got all the paint. When picking a partner, can you see yourself picking out paint colors? It's a thing. After this we finish painting our bathroom dark purple and then up next is the art room (yes, I have an entire art room that I don't use because I like to make a mess all over the dining room table to be close to my man, very fabulous). Yardwork together, watching movies together, weekends together. I absolutely can not wait for it to warm up more this spring! We got a new (used) second motorcycle on the way this year that's just for cruising to the beaches and such and I can't wait for my boobies to be pressed all up against his back while his hand is on my leg while we are on the bike. I love it!!!

So here we are, working on Lavender again a bunch so that other people can go and find their happily ever after partner as well. Put in the effort and be good to each other.